Your Husband, Your Neighbor
“‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’;and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’” Luke 10:27 NIV
What does your husband have to do with your neighbor? By definition, He should be the closest to your heart! That’s all the more reason you should be loving your husband well.
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” Ephesians 5:31 NIV
It doesn’t get any closer than that! As Christians, we are to put our husbands only second to God. Plus, Valentine’s Day is upon us! So let’s examine how to love our husband’s well. It’s easy for “our other half” to be the ones who get most neglected.
Home Date Nights
There is no denying that date nights are awesome. I recommend at least once a month. But guess what–we don’t do that! Why? It’s not in our budget. At $10 an hour for babysitting, that is one expensive night out–especially if you want to go to dinner or do anything else that costs money! The expense is probably worth it, but we don’t have that much in our expendable budget. Family babysitters are a fantastic option, but we don’t have any of them around here either. Trading with friends works occasionally, but if you want to go out at night, it’s tricky. Kid’s have bedtimes! If they aren’t at home in their beds, or spending the night elsewhere, that really isn’t the best option either.
So what are a husband and wife to do? Home dates! TRAIN YOUR KIDS TO GO TO BED. I speak from experience. My husband worked strange hours when my kids were at their littlest. I would let them stay up a bit later so they could catch a glimpse of Dad or keep me company. Now I am still in the process of getting them to stay in bed at night. It’s not easy! But on date night, they are given extra strict instructions to stay there because it’s Mommy and Daddy time. Do they get that? No they don’t. But we are working on it. Some day they will. If they interrupt Mommy and Daddy’s date, we just say, “Back to bed.” Then we remind them of the consequences if they interrupt again. It’s not a perfect date situation, but it’s better than nothing!
How To Date at Home
A date isn’t really much of a date if we don’t spend time together. The number one rule is that we put our phones and computers down. Another suggestions…don’t just watch TV. If you are going to watch TV, at least make it a special movie night. The idea is to get the two of you connecting.
- Make a special meal or dessert together, then enjoy!
- Have some wine (or sparkling cider), candlelight, and conversation.
- Play a board or card game.
- Find a hobby you both enjoy. We have recently gotten into making soap!
There are lots of great sites that give date ideas for home. Check out my Marriage Pinterest board for inspiration.
Keep it Spicy!
Marriage should be fun. I have had the pleasure of hearing Jennifer Degler, popular Christian relationship counselor and coach, speak a few times. You may also know her as the author of No More Christian Nice Girl: When Just Being Nice–Instead of Good–Hurts You, Your Family, and Your Friends. What you may not know is that she is the creator of CWIVES. CWIVES stands for Christian Wives Initiating Valuing Enjoying Sex. She issues monthly creative challenges for wives to help spice up their love lives. The key word here is “fun!” She also has fun products informative blog posts and podcasts. Without giving too much away, all I can say is definitely check out her blog and try out CWIVES. It could be the best thing you have done for your marriage in a long time. Your husband will thank you too!Make time for each other and God will bless your marriage! Click To Tweet
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Don’t get caught up in the “married parents” routine of letting Valentine’s Day just slide by like any other. Make time for each other and God will bless your marriage! Your husband is worth it and so are you!
What do you do to keep your marriage a priority?