As I stroll amongst the ties, grilling aprons, and golf clubs on display for Father’s Day, I realize that none of those seem right. It’s been a tough year for us… not for our marriage, but health and financial issues seemed to continually arise. A “World’s Greatest Dad” plastic trophy just doesn’t seem to do justice. I know my husband accomplished much in this year of Fatherhood.
After nearly 13 years of marriage, I know my husband pretty well. I don’t need him to verbalize anything for me to be aware of the fact that he is beating himself up. He was around more, made more money, had more energy, gave us more presents, more, more, more. He wishes that in the same way that I wish I was less…I wish I weighed less, nagged less, had less of a mess left uncleaned at the end of the day. We all want what we don’t have. We don’t have enough hours in the day to be all that we want to be.
So What Can We Give???So what is the best thing we can give fathers when nothing seems right? Respect. Plain and simple. Click To Tweet
So what is the best thing we can give fathers when nothing seems right? Respect. Plain and simple. In the midst of all the pain and yuck of the world, my husband needs to know that I not only love him, but I don’t blame him for everything that has gone wrong in our lives. He needs to know that I realize that even though he is not perfect, he really is trying his best. He needs to know that his best is good enough for me. He needs to know that I love him unconditionally and I trust him completely. Sometimes our lives are a mess, but there is no one I would rather be in a mess with than my husband.
“However, each one of you (husbands) also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:33
Similarly, I need to show my own father the same respect. He didn’t do things exactly the way that my husband and I want to do them. But he did the best he could do. And he raised me! 😉
The knowledge that we respect our husbands and fathers is better than any tie in the world. Happy Father’s Day to all you dads out there. We love you, support you, and respect you!
What meaningful Father’s Day traditions do you have? How do you show your father respect?